What a heart attack and an anxiety attack taught me about being a man

Me in the E.R. after my heart attack June 14, 2021

I had a heart attack on June 14th. It was a mild one, but it scared me nearly to death. …


The new movie’s surprising take on “alpha” males wasn’t just professionally gratifying— it also had a personal impact on me at a vulnerable moment.

I was hesitant to plop down 20 bucks to watch the latest Godzilla movie the other day.

After all, the title invoked the conventional movie trope…


Can we move from rewarding competition to celebrating connection? Can we survive if we don’t?

I watched Rain Man for the first time the other day. Spoiler alert: I am going to describe one of the killer, climatic scenes.

I am going to describe this scene because it is about…


How the smallest management career in history (mine) might be the beginning of a big trend.

In some ways, you shouldn’t listen to a word I say about how men should show up at work.

I have what is probably the smallest management career in history.

I’ve managed one person…


Pence wasn’t a “p*ssy” for standing up for democracy. But Trump’s been a “pr*ck” as president.

President Trump put it to Mike Pence straight up. Overturn the election and be remembered a “patriot.” Or fail to do so and be remembered as a “p*ssy.”

It was an absurd choice. But…


We need all men and women of good will to stand up to a bully trying to cling to power

This article is co-authored by Dr. Ed Adams, my coauthor on our new book Reinventing Masculinity: The Liberating Power of Compassion and Connection.

“Donald Trump” by Gage Skidmore, licensed under CC BY-SA 2.0

Abe Lincoln is spinning in his grave. So is George Washington.

These revered male leaders would be appalled by what Donald Trump is doing right now in…


Donald Trump might be a better man — and we wouldn’t be up a creek

Reading The New York Times recent expose of Donald Trump’s tax records and his collision course with bankruptcy, I was struck by an alternate history scenario. …


A reinvention of masculinity is needed to steer us away from a violent, dark future to a caring, hopeful one.

This article is co-authored by Dr. Ed Adams, my coauthor on our forthcoming book Reinventing Masculinity: The Liberating Power of Compassion and Connection.

Proud Boys demonstrator. Photo by Adam Cohn.

A 17-year old male accused of killing…


But there’s a reality right in front of us of inclusive communities that can be positively dreamy

My brother, sister, mom and me (far right) outside our suburban home in Amherst, NY, around 1984

Donald Trump’s recent talk about the suburbs amounts to a fake dream.

I know. I lived it.

I grew up in the 1970s and ’80s in a suburb of Buffalo, New York.

Yes…


In the end, the good Carl did in the world is something you can’t size up with one of his tape measures.

What’s the measure of a man’s life?

Might it be a four-inch steel bracket? …

Ed Frauenheim

I write about work, culture and masculinity. Concerned about the present but hopeful about the future.

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